Alright bud, I've been there and I know what your feeling right now. Some of the best advice I can give is when you get to frustrated, just walk away for a couple hours. It will give you time to relax and figure out what you can do.
Do you have the intake hat off yet? The hat that goes from the turbo and onto the intake manifold, its a cast aluminum piece? If you dont, you might will have to loosen up the bolts that hold the compressor side housing on the turbo (I'm pretty sure they are 1/2" bolts). There's one you cant get, but with enough force you can get the whole thing to rotate, and get the intake hat off.
With that off it frees up some room to play. Now take the throttle linkage off the IP. With that off, take the two bolts out of the intake manifold that holds the bracked for the throttle linkage. Move that out of the way to clear some more room.
This is where you decide if you want to unbolt the turbo from the turbo pedistal. You can either take off the two bolts that hold the turbo to the turbo pedistal (feel under the turbo, and you should feel two bolts), or you can unbolt the turbo pedistal and turbo as a whole unit. The turbo pedistal is held on with two bolts that go in back of the intake manifold (just below where the intake hat is, its where the old CDR is located on N/A IDI's. Taking the turbo off the turbo pedistal is hard, but its less mass to move when your trying to wiggle out the turbo. I would take the bolts off the turbo pedistal, but thats what I did. It really helps to have some rachet wrenches for this whole taking the turbo out. Rachet wrenches with the swiviling head (changes the angle) is a god send for this, they are spendy but help out a lot.
Now that thats taken car off, you get to the fun part. Take the 4 bolts (9/16" I believe) that attach the up pipe to the turbo. This is the only way to do it IMHO, because then you dont have to worry about bringing that all out when you pull the turbo out. This is where those rachet wrenches come in handy. Trust me its a PITA, but you'll get it eventually. Its all feel back there which kinda sucks though, but at least your not doing it in a 20* shop like I did
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Alright, know what you have to do is take off the down pipe. I think your style down pipe is differnet from mine. All I had to do was loosen up the exhuast, and pull my downpipe out (its a slip fit, just sits in there). I think your downpipe has some bolts on it, throw on some WD40 or something better like that see foam stuff, and let it sit a while. Take those off, and start wiggling that downpipe, it'll eventually come out.
Then pull out the turbo.
The first time I did it, it took me a good 16 hours to do, because I had no idea what the hell I was doing, and I was cold as hell. Plus I got frustarted a lot. Ended up taking me a couple days because I was going slow.
Have fun with it
I hope I never have to do it again