hey guys, the seals manufactured in the past 10 years or so have some degree of teflon imbedded in them and do not like oil!
In the past it was acceptable and necessary to lightly lube the metal surface....no longer true and will cause premature failure!
Most of the oversize and standard seals come with install sleeves even the pricey ones from Ford
IDI's have a seal carrier as Gary mentioned...just remove the lower rear oil pan bolts as well as the carrier bolts and it comes right off allowing easier seal removal and better access when the old wear sleeve {if an oversize seal was used} needs to be removed...usually a couple nice hits from a beatin' iron using a dull chisel will swell and distort the sleeve enough to remove it without damaging the crank end ....
Dont sweat it if you cannot fully seat the sleeve....get it on as far as the install tool {usually supplied--altho may be hard plastic!} allows and the flywheel will seat it.
Another thing on the IDI seal carrier...If memory serves, a couple if not all the carrier bolts are thru tapped---meaning the thread bores are not blind and go directly into the crankcase----so use some p-tex #2 on the threads to avoid any possible leaks.
Hope this is of some help