Ok so finally some more updates and a few questions.
When I said "parts came in" earlier i bought a bunch of stuff a-la-carte from Broncograveyard.com and did not buy bearings of any kind, assuming that I could re-use them since it's a front axle and gets no miles. I was wrong. They arent scored in any way but worn for sure.
So that's why this update is taking so long, I went ahead and ordered the master kit and has to wait a week and a half for that...and somehow they couldnt be bothered to actually send the WHOLE KIT the first time so I had to wait again and lost all of last weekend since USPS is totally incompetent and didn't deliver it Saturday night as expected.
Broncograveyard.com is a great place for parts but the customer service is crap, there's a little more to the story but they just don't care at all.
So now I'm finally setting up my pinion preload. I made set up bearings for the housing, and setup cups/outer bearing for the pinion. **Fun note, the OE pinion bearing does not have any shims behind it. BUT the kit from US Gear changes that and shims behind the inner pinion bearing now instead of behind the inner bearing cup. They don't mention this on the website so I didnt make a setup inner bearing, I just pressed it on.**
THEN I got the stupid second shipment and already had a good bearing pressed so I'm just going to re-use the stock pinion depth shims and pray it works. Like Russ mentioned my pinions are only -1 difference so these shims should work ok.
For the setup cup/bearing on the pinion I used the old stuff I pulled out of it. They are worn but not scratched/gouged. Is that ok?
Pinion preload question: using the worn cups and one worn bearing, will preload increase using the shim method once I swap in the good bearings? I have the pinion at 12 in-lbs, but I don't know how this will change when I change them out. I guess I could seat the new inner cup and see what happens, then the new outer bearing too if it doesnt change too much. Need 14-19 in-lbs on new bearings.
I have to say that this project has taken WAY longer than I wanted it to. But once you have a handle on what to do and have setup bearings, the whole thing is very doable. Thanks for the advice and encouragement guys!