The best thing to do with that connector is take the large wires and cut them very close to the connector. Just use the connector for all the smaller wires. With the large wires, connect them directly, bypassing the original connector.
You can get fancy and buy a decent connector that will hold the amperage, and connect the large supply wires to that. Or you can be cheap and simple like me, and just use 4 crimp ring terminals and then use two small bolts and nuts and bolt the wires together. I recommend you have some way to disconnect these wires, since the original connector feeds everything on top of the engine, and the wire runs over top the valve cover. It's very convenient to be able to disconnect these wires when changing valve cover gaskets, or pulling the engine, or any other serious engine work where the wires will be in the way.
Okay so those wires were already cut and put together with crimp connectors, in fact every wire on that connector was - the connector was gone. One of the heavy wires crimp connector was partially melted (black/orange going yellow). I also found MORE fuse links over by that passenger battery... in fact I found one that had melted.
I kinda went for a temporary half assed fix on both. I just used some crimp connectors to reconnect the fusible link that had melted, and then I did the same for the melted crimp connector mentioned above. I wish I had seen your suggestion Franklin before I used those crimps... the nut and bolt system makes a lot of sense.
After turning the glow plugs on and walking over to that portion of the engine bay I could smell some "hot plastic" so to speak but the links all seemed to stay intact. I'm not sure if I have a short, or what. I'm kinda dreading soldering new fusible links in, I haven't soldered since I was a kid with a model train set...
Here is something different though, before, I would turn the key, WTS would stay on about 15 seconds, and then I would finally hear the glow plugs kick off after about another 30 seconds (this was earlier today). Just now, I heard the relay click off after about 15 seconds. Might be getting somewhere here. I don't think the relay/controller was getting enough power - it was getting enough volts, just not amps. Just a theory so far as I haven't bothered trying to start the engine as its still warm.
I can't thank y'all enough for the help you have provided thus far. Thank you.