Very sorry to hear about these findings. But this is a great example of what happens when you have a worn valve guide that goes ignored. First symptoms include ticking and/or chuffing from exhaust. Next, valve burns itself up & does not seal properly against seat, which is crucial to proper valve dissipation of heat. Next is what happens here. Valve face starts to crack and fall apart, retainers pop out & valve drops into cylinder & eats $hit up. Excessive guide wear also lets combustion gases into the valve train area, which is why you see all that carbon gunk.
Curious to see what's behind that cylinder head. Seeing this kind of damage, I would be pulling that engine out and see what you got to work with. Hold your chin up tho, lots of members here to help you out!