Well, I did it, however I made some changes in the circuitry:
1) I'm taking power off the cold advance solenoid, as I have a manual switch for the high idle, and I don't want the glowplugs controller powering up when I'm running the high idle for lighting or whatever else purposes.
2) I wired in the new relay inline with the white wire between the controller and the main glowplugs relay, and retain factory power and ground to the controller itself, this way the controller can only trigger the main relay when the engine temp is under 112F. I didn't wanna mess with the factory ground for the controller because the controller is actually pretty sensitive about that one too - the more resistance it feels there the longer it keeps the plugs engaged, and the extra wiring associated with the new relay would adds 0.4 ohms to that circuit's resistance (yes, I measured it, lol).
Overall I'm pretty happy about it, it works flawlessly - regular 15-second glow cycle with the engine cold, then once she drops off the high idle and the cold advance if I shut her off upon restart the glowplugs stay off and she lights off almost instantly