Ok, so thanks to everyone here I got it done, a few thoughts:
1) For future reference the level plug on the 10.25 is right where you guys said, on the driver's side of the differential on the front part(closer to the cab) and it's hiding but obvious if you know what it is you're looking for! Hopefully the next guy will find this thread
2) BIG thanks to Jim aka Gatorman2128 for guiding me to where the axle vent lives, for the record this is the front vent DeepRoots was speaking of and it IS the best place to fill the diff with oil if you can get that fitting out and a small enough funnel in. It is on the axle tubing and should have a rubber hose going away from it that tees into the brake lines. These guys were telling me that the vent needs to be cleaned in order to prevent your oil bath seals from leaking. If that's true it's good I got around to it now because the fitting was full of rustycruddy stuff and took some serious cleaning to get it to breathe freely, but it definitely is now. Thanks for the filling tip Drew it made my life easier/less messy.
3) I'm now running Amsoil "Severe Gear" 75W-90 synthetic. I did not change the fluid last time cause my pinion nut had backed off and I had a shop fix it by retorquing the pinion nut and replacing the crush sleeve. I was definitely scared to see what was in there. I thought I might find chunks of metal and lots of contamination, but it looked nearly pristine, so I was happy. So far no leaks and no scary noises after a test drive last night and too and from work today so all seems well. I guess we'll have to wait awhile to see if I think the Amsoil makes any noticeable difference in fuel economy. Probably won't or at least just part of the package of soem improvement with fixing my leaks and adding a cold air intake. Thanks again, all that helped.