OK, Looking at you picture here is what I see
On the relay
Top Left Large Lug, I see one end of the Z Resistor, a yellow wire and a nut
Bottom Left Small Lug, I see a small red wire from controller, and a second connector with 2 red wires and a nut
Top Right Small Lug, I see a single wire, which should be he white wire from the controller
Bottom Right Large Lug, I see a single large red wire, and a nut
Z Resistor, end opposite the relay, I see a connector that may be going to the 2 wires below he red wires going to the bottom left small lug.
So the way the wiring needs to be, and it may already be this way, I can't see where everything goes away from the controller
On the lower left small lug, you should have a red wire from the controller, and a wire(s) that is +12 volts when the key is on
On the upper right small lugm should be just the white wire from the controller. This wire is pulled to ground by the controller to activate the relay.
On the top left large lug should be the Z Resistor and the yellow wire from the controller.
One the lower right large lug should be the high current supply from the batteries. There is nothing else connected to this lug
On the connector at the other end of the Z Resistor should be the the green wire from the controller and the harness to the glow plugs.
Do you have 12 volts on the Small lug with the red/ignition wires with the key on?
Do you have 12 volts on the large lug with the large red wire?
If you measure at the connection to the plugs at the end ov the z resistor, and put a temporary ground on the post with the white wire, do you have 12ish volts? (this one needs to be quick, with the white terminal grounded that plugs are on as long as the ground is connected, the controller has no control at this point. Make this test quick, because you are heating the plugs)
Also, if the plugs are working. That Z resistor will get HOT!!!! Not warm, burn your fingers hot. The first time I ran my plugs after them being out of service for a time, the Z resistor actually smoked when it was burning all the dust and dirt off of it. If that resistor isn't getting hot, and the wiring is correct, there is no current being drawn from the plugs.
I fought this with one of my trucks, and this is what I had to do/check to get them working.