I got the magnetic drain plug (1/2-20, same as the IDI plug) and a pack of white nylon washers. I needed to change the oil drain plug gasket on the engine anyway, because the reused copper one was seeping. So after I put in the magnetic one in the trans pan, I took the new basic one that came with the pan and put it in the oil drain with a new nylon gasket. The engine plug was pretty gnarled up and needed replacing really anyway. No seeping from the oil drain now.
You might ask why no magnetic on the engine right now? Eh, more cost (~$6) and the engine has a real filter, unlike the transmission. I might put one at the next oil change.
So back to the transmission...
No leaks to be found around the pan, so I guess I got it right on the first try. It looks like it might be a little seepy/moiste around the outside edge as it was soaking into the gasket. Trans fluid usually makes rubber swell, so it'll probably do that and provide a good tight seal. I saw no fluid running down the sides of the pan or dripping off the bottom.
I put in about 6qts at first and it was slipping bad from low fluid. It's so hard to get a good reading on the dipstick immediately after filling due to fluid residue in the tube. Plus it was air purging from the torque converter to, so it kept sucking down the level after I drove it, so I kept having to add more. So then I added another 2qts and it got better, perfectly driveable but still quite low after more driving and air purging. Then I got back to my mom's and cracked open the third gallon and slowly added another 2.5ts, so now it has about 10.5qts total put in after the change. That sounds about right, considering some was left in the torque converter and I forgot to drain the cooler up front.
That was all within about 3 miles, so I didn't go nuts driving far with it badly low. And really it was the first 2 miles that it was badly low (under 8qts), being topped off twice within that distance. I had to stop where I could, to add more.
It might still be a tiny bit low, but I need to let the fluid in the tube drain down fully overnight. I couldn't quote tell if it was at the ADD dot or within the arrows area (do not add area). Once the tube has a chance to fully drain, I should get able to get a good reading tomorrow.