A 45 degree difference is pretty good.
And I am not the biggest fan of VRVs, I like to go with a standard high pressure/low pressure switch type system.
And always pull a vacuum to boil out the moisture in the system when you put it back together. But then I like to charge with some Nitrogen like I do home units and see how well it holds.
As for buying R12 from someone who you don't know personally and if the R12 is clean, you could be buying some very contaminated stuff which will make short work of your system if you try to install it. There are some alternative refrigerants you can put in the system without converting it all over to 134, but you have to work those drop ins by pressures and temperatures to charge it right. I'm not a fan of 134, but plan on going to it for ease of purchase of refills