In my experience with the Ford 8" and 9" diffs the pinion shim was always a minimum of .020"....What ever was marked on the pinion ( +1 or +2 and so on) had to be added to the .020" shim thickness, not subtracted....I'm just throwing this out there so you don't wreck anything as it could apply the same to a 10.25"....My advice, call or email Randy's ring and pinion or Currie Enterprises to get expert advice in this matter. I'd hate to see you burn up a bearing due to incorrect advice.
As for used gears, I've swapped in a few sets, all are still running down the road today....I take everything out of the donor axle right down to the shims and crush sleeve and put them in the new axle...(unless it's a 9" Ford axle which doesn't use a crush sleeve)...The trick is to get the gears running in there old spot....A little bit loose is better than a little tight when it comes to pinion bearings IMHO.