First thing I would do is go out with your rig loaded for bear and get on the scales. People tend to underestimate weight in my experience... unless they are bragging things up for a good war story, which it doesn't sound like you are doing. When I first started towing big with my '86 in the early '90s, I was appalled at how sluggy it was with my rig (see below for the config). Prior to this trip, I had felt invincible, what with my Banks turbo! Got on the scales about a third of the way into the trip... 19,200 lbs! Holy crap! Considering that, I was doing pretty good! I soon learned that a full 100 gallon water tank was not really needed, nor the gigantic 100# "extra" house battery. I wasn't quite doing the rock collection thing Lucille Ball did in The Long, Long Trailer but I was definitely lugging the kitchen sink and then some. Knocking off a thousand pounds helped a lot and over the years I lightened up lots more. Weigh that puppy!
I towed many thousands of miles at 17,000-19,000 GCWR (30 foot Terry Manor and a a Six Pack overhead camper on the truck... I weighed it). Banks Gen 1 non-wastegated turbo. That was about 15 years ago when there was less call to be embarrassed by the modern "super truck" stuff that has double the power and triple the torque. Still, I made 10-14 psi boost (depending on load or altitude) and I wasn't afraid the rev above 3,000 when the job required it... watched the pyro. Most times I set 900-950 sustained as my limit but would do shorter runs at 1,000-1,100. My truck had about 80,000 miles of very little BUT towing before it was "retired" to being a work/farm truck. Sure, optimize the timing. Maybe tweak the pump a little (sound like you could use a little more fuel). Make sure the exhaust is free. Don't be afraid to rev it. Beyond that:
It Is What It Is
It's never going to be able keep up with the modern stuff, so toss the feelings of inadequacy aside. Forget the "expectations!" Learn to get all the truck can give and then be happy in the slow lane. Remember the term "Mechanical Sympathy" and watch your gauges. I dunno, try to pretend you are back in the '80s when a Banks or ATS-equipped IDI Ford literally RULED the highways. Cue the music, and sing along you old timers,
"Those were the days,
My friends,
We thought they'd never end..."