The starter relays can be bar-type, as they really only trigger the solenoid, and handle far less power than the glow plugs.
I recently made a manual glow system, and I used a relay from International that is identical to the ring-type contactor on the controller (well almost; the mounting tabs are 90* off so you can't just replace the relay on the controller
, but otherwise identical in amperage). I wanted to be sure that the relay could handle the power, so far so good. Use a cheapo bar-type at your own risk, and FYI the cheapo controllers have bar-type contactors, too. The real deal will set you back at least $140 (International wanted $200
) Just my experience here, your mileage may vary.