OK, we gonna do this the simplest way possible:
1) Get yourself another one of those 5-pole "ice cube" relays, install it somewhere under the dash, and ground its terminal #86.
2) Locate a switched key-on wire somewhere under the dash. You can tap into the fuse panel for this, use an Add-A-Fuse thing in place of the 10-amp fuse for the tank selector valve. If you're not sure how to get the Add-A-Fuse in there the right way lemme know, you shouldn't just stab it in there any way it looks good cause you can end up on the wrong side of the primary circuit. Extend the Add-A-Fuse thing's pigtail till it reaches the relay, and connect it to relay terminal #87a (it's the one in the middle).
3) Open your steering column, locate harness for combination switch, in the harness locate red/black and red/yellow wires. Verify the red/black only has power when headlights are on low beams. Verify the red/yellow has power on both low and high beams, but drops power the moment you push the headlights switch halfway in (to running lights position) and then remains dead when you turn all lights off.
4) Tap into the red/yellow wire in any way you prefer (I suggest avoiding scotchlock "suitcase" connectors). Do NOT cut the wire, just splice into it and then extend new wire to relay. Connect it to relay terminal #85. This completes your relay trigger/master circuit.
5) Cut the red/black wire in the column harness, extend both ends to relay. Connect red/black wire coming from the combination switch to relay terminal #87. Connect red/black wire going into the big harness to relay terminal #30. This completes your relay load/slave circuit.
How it works:
a) when headlights are off there will be no power on the red/yellow wire you tapped into. The relay trigger will therefore remain inactive, defaulting the relay to bridge terminals #87a and #30 together. With ignition on the Add-A-Fuse will power up terminal #87, and that voltage will be sent to terminal #30, then thru the red/black wire into the main harness and all the way down to your RJM relayed harness, where it will trigger your low beams relay and you will have low beams on full power.
b) when headlights switch is pulled out all the way the red/yellow wire will become live, thus triggering the relay to switch from its default #87a-#30 bridge to #87-#30. The Add-A-Fuse power thus gets disconnected from the main harness and DRL feature is disabled. If the dimmer part of the combination switch is set to low beams it will feed power to terminal #87, from where terminal #30 will pick it up and send it down the main harness to the RJM harness and its low beams relay, exactly how it was happening in DRL mode. However if the dimmer part on the combination switch is set to high beams there will be no power supplied to the #87->#30->mainharness->RJMharness chain, and thus the low beams will go off - which is what you need to happen when high beams are on anyways.
In other words the relay is used to switch between key-on (headlights off) and dimmer (headlights on) signal for the RJM low beams relay trigger. Note that if you only pull the headlights switch halfway out for your running lights, the DRLs will still be active, and thus you end up with both markers and headlights on. Except you won't be able to use your high beams because in DRL mode the relay does not accept signal from the dimmer. So if you wanna run the highs, make sure the headlights switch is pulled all the way out.