dude... are you stalking me????

how many wires/colors are in that harness?

not stalking no one, just after spending hours tracing and fixing some creative wiring some previous owner of my truck had done I know all too well how the truck is wired (or at least how it was wired from the factory).
Which harness are you asking about? The one for the relay has 4 wires:
- yellow, battery feed for the relay, constant hot
- white/red, power out to dually lights (4 fender markers and 3 under tailgate) and trailer marker lights
- brown, pull coil trigger, spliced into the front marker lights harness, hot when you pull the main switch
- black, pull coil ground.
The dually markers are all spliced into the white/red wire at the same spot, their grounds are also spliced all together. So if the fenders got power so did the ICC lights. And since the same red/white wire also powers the trailer connector, and said connector at least from the factory was grounded to the same spot on the frame as the dually markers, it stands to reason that if you had a trailer connected its lights would also power up.