The delete tuner that you are talking about is a programmer for the PCM. On the later 6.0L if you remove the EGR Valve it will turn the Check Engine Light on. It takes a programmer, like a BullyDog, SCT... etc.... to turn the light off. If it is an 03 or 04, more that likely it will not set the CEL, but the 06 or 07 more than likely set the lite. Some guys, when they do an EGR Delete, they leave the EGR Valve connected under the hood and just zip-tie it somewhere out of the way, that way it still "functions" as far as the computer is conserned, but it is just hanging in the open air. If you do an EGR Delete, make sure that you get one that is a complete delete setup, that eliminates the EGR Cooler completely, and plugs or swaps out the up pipe to remove the exhaust path also. There are some kits that only delete the valve and not the cooler, which can still leak coolant if something happens. With what you describe, the Oil cooler and EGR cooler being bad, the Oil Cooler is first in that coolant path, then it goes to the EGR Cooler and then out the the radiator (not directly this is just a simple description) and the Oil Cooler coolant passages start to plug up bacause of sediment and other "crap" in the coolant, this limits the amount of coolant to the EGR cooler, causing it to overheat and fail. On the 6.0, the Oil Cooler and the EGR Cooler are in the valley on the top of the engine, it is not a bundle on the side of the engine like the IDI's are. I would strongly recommend a coolant filter, there is alot of casting sand left in these blocks from the factory. That is on my to-do list also. If your neighbor does need a tuner to turn the light off, which it would also give the ability to turn the truck up, same tuner, you can get one of them from any of the sponsers here on the site..... However, if this engine is still running stock except for the EGR Delete, he would want to limit the amount he turns it up as the 6.0 turned up likes the lift the heads...... a set of new gaskets and ARP Studs will help in that area. Mine is 100% stock including all the coolers in place and functioning. I do have an intermittant coolant leak, that I believe it the front cover starting to leak. In talking to punk, he said the best way to fix that is to pull the engine and reseal all the covers. I am going to save my pennies and when Trav and I pull the engine to reseal the coolant leaks, I plan on having a set of head gaskets and head studs also. Do everything that can fail and you need to pull the engine to fix, all at once. Beacuse with my luck, if we pull the engine and only fix the coolant leak, a week after I put it all back together, I will blow a head gasket and have to pull it out again......
Sorry for the long response, if you have any other questions please ask. I love the 6.0, they are not as bad as everyone says, and I would not hesitate to buy another vehicle with a 6.0, with a few checks beforehand.....